the thing that gets me the most...

is how is it possible for someone to do something due to a sense of obligation? It is one thing to want to self-lessly do something for another for their benefit bc you honestly want to help or even please them (ie to make them happy which in turn makes you happy) but if you are pissed off bc YOU decided to do something that YOU did not want to do all bc YOU somehow felt obligated to do for/with/bc of that person...wtf is your problem? don't do it~

Loyalty is not fair-weather fidelity when things are beneficial to you, but undying devotion even when you are positioned to take one for the team.